the Power of Saying “No”

Since I moved to Mexico I have said yes to many projects. Some of them challenge me to the point of getting sick and ending up in the hospital from the stress. I was in a new country and I thought I had to do what it takes to create stability for myself.

In the attempt of creating stability, I landed my first ( and last! ) office job working for a real estate agency. The broker is one of the most generous people I've met here in Mexico.

About 9 months after accepting the position, he called me into his office and said to me; “ where is the light in your eyes gone?” 

I was truly unhappy and my soul was literally wilting away in that place.

He invited me to have coffee and talk, he was genuinely interested in my wellbeing. This is when I realize that Spirit is always providing for us, we just have to know we are worth it and be willing to receive.

My boss at that time asked me: what do you need? I think it was too big of a question to even imagine what he meant by that. I honestly couldn't bring myself to say what I was feeling inside because I thought it was an outrageous request.

He looked at me and said again; I am asking what do you need because I really mean it, I am asking because I really care, so please tell me.

I felt a huge knot in my tummy when I heard myself say; I want 3 months of pay while I get situated running my own wellness business out of my home and let myself heal from the stress I've been dealing with since I moved here. He looked at me smiling and said: Done.

I really could not believe what had just happened. He literally said; Ati you are a good person and you deserve good things. I am happy to support you.

We met at the end of July to check in and end the three months agreement. By then I had gotten my business running and had enough clients to support my financial stability without having to work for someone else. It was truly a miracle.

So, what I got to learn from this experience was that my financial stability doesn't have to come at the expense of my own health, peace and freedom. That if I only focus on surviving, then I will only attract situations that will keep me in ‘survivor mode’ 

I learned that there are people out there in the world that are genuinely interested to support your wellbeing, without asking for anything in return. 

But my biggest realization was to experience what happened by saying yes to mySelf and accept what Spirit was offering me right then in the form of my boss. Three months of financial support which sounded crazy to me, for him it was an easy yes. 

I said yes to receiving, I said yes to feeling worthy of what I needed at the time to heal myself. I said yes to trusting that I would be capable of creating my wellness business in the next 90 days. But first, I had to learn to say NO to what didn't feel in alignment with my soul. First I had to say no to the idea that surviving is all there is in life and instead, I deserved a fulfilling and purposeful life.

This blog is dedicated to Jaime Niembro. A generous man who allowed me to feel into my worthiness and never asked anything in return, nor questioned my decisions. My heart is full of gratitude for you.

Namaste!